Lifting Yourself Up 

Lifting yourself up on somedays is so very hard! Somedays, I just want to stay in bed and then someone would either call or text me and it would LIFT me up! You should make it a practice everyday to encourage, support and positively uplift someone through kind words, actively listening, sharing, opportunities, recognizing achievements, and being present for each other. However, you need to realize that you have to be able to LIFT YOURSELF UP! Even when you are in a relationship you shouldn't rely on them always to lift you up! Take care of YOU! 

Key Ways

1) Offer sincere compliments and give positive feedback. Point out qualities of the person, their strength and efforts. Even to yourself, give yourself A Pep talk often!

2) Active listening - pay full attention, no cell phones and most of all show empathy.

3) Be encouraging use positive language and make them know you believe in them

4) Celebrate achievements large and small. Even if its with pizza or ice cream! 

5) Be supportive to them, help and provide resources if needed.

6) Share opportunities with them, if you hear about a benefit for someone, let them know

7) Avoid negativity and gossip, you need to focus on building each other up not tearing each other down

8) Be a role model, be positive it will rub off. I have seen this work in the flesh! I can make anyone go from being negative into positive with doing all of the above. It takes practice doing them but I am good at it. That is one of the reasons I developed this website and weekly newsletters. 

When you are feeling down there are lots of things you can do:

1) Physical Activity - walk enjoy nature, swim! Do anything to get your body moving! Exercise releases endorphins which naturally boost your mood. I can go into the pool feeling very down and when I leave I feel happier because I gave my body something it needed. 

2) Mindful practices - breath, meditation, calm your mind, get one with nature.

3) Connect with others - Talk to someone you enjoy! I reach out to the people I feel most comfortable with and I make it a goal to make them life. Making someone else happy boosts my mood!

4) Engage in hobbies - do something that you love!

5) Spend time outdoors - fresh air and sunshine is good for your soul

6) Practice gratitude - make a list of things you are grateful for. This gets you to think about positive aspects of your life

7) Set up small goals - focus on achievable tasks that can give you a sense of accomplishments

8) Help others - do something to help someone will give you a sense of accomplishments

9) Positive self-talk - replace negative thoughts with positive. Don't take your own shit! Give yourself hell for feeling negative. 

10) Take care of yourself - get enough sleep, eat healthy food and staying hydrated

Exercise To Do - How to Lift Yourself Up

7 Ways to Pick Yourself Back Up!

From time to time, we all get a little down, maybe even a little depressed. Maybe we are feeling overwhelmed, or feel bad because we’re not doing well with our goals. There are many reasons for feeling down, and I’m not qualified to discuss all of them, their implications, or clinical treatment. What I can talk about are some things that have worked for me.

Feeling a little depressed can interfere with achieving our goals. We know we should be doing something, but we just don’t feel like doing anything. This can last for a long time if you don’t head it off as soon as possible and take action. Here are some of the things that work best for me:

To pick yourself up, focus on self-care, engage in activities you enjoy, practice gratitude, and reconnect with loved ones or pursue activities that bring you joy. 

Here's a more detailed breakdown of strategies to help you feel better:

1. Prioritize Self-Care:

• Exercise:

Even a short walk or a quick workout can boost your mood and energy levels. 

• Good personal hygiene:

Taking a shower, grooming, and dressing nicely can make you feel more confident and put-together. 

• Adequate sleep:

Ensure you're getting enough rest, as sleep deprivation can worsen mood and overall well-being. 

• Healthy eating:

Nourish your body with nutritious foods, and limit processed or unhealthy options. 

2. Engage in Enjoyable Activities:

• Do something you enjoy:

Whether it's reading, listening to music, watching a movie, or pursuing a hobby, make time for activities that bring you pleasure and relaxation. 

• Get outdoors:

Spending time in nature can be incredibly therapeutic and uplifting. 

• Connect with loved ones:

Reach out to friends and family, or spend time with people who bring you joy and support. 

• Help others:

Acts of kindness can lift your spirits and remind you of the positive impact you can have. 

• Change up your routine:

Sometimes, a change of scenery or a new activity can help you feel refreshed and motivated. 

3. Practice Mindfulness and Gratitude:

• Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness or meditation to help you stay present and reduce stress. 

• Gratitude: Regularly reflect on the things you're grateful for, as gratitude can shift your perspective and boost your overall well-being. 

• Journaling: Write down your thoughts and feelings to gain clarity and perspective. 

• Acknowledge your feelings: Don't suppress your emotions, but rather acknowledge and process them. 

• Reframe problems: Try to see challenges as opportunities for growth and learning. 

4. Seek Support When Needed:

• Talk to someone: Share your feelings with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist. 

• Join a support group: Connect with others who are going through similar experiences. 

• Seek professional help: Don't hesitate to reach out to a therapist or counselor if you're struggling to cope. 

"The only person you need to be better than is the one you were yesterday," -Rachel Hollis