Being a control freak it is very hard to do this. Comments, other peoples lives and social media cause so much anxiety and crap in my head. So I have done lots of personal research in this matter, please read this it will help you.

Tips to help you learn to control your mind

a) Meditation and breathing

b) Pause during the day and slow your mind down

c) Avoid negative triggers - news, social media

d) Better self awareness that cause unwanted thoughts

e) Rest your mind on a stressful day

f) Journal your thoughts

g) Stop listening to negative people

h) Practice positive visualization

i) Distract yourself - call a friend, bird watch

Brain Exercises to help your thoughts

1) Jigsaw puzzles - challenges your brain

2) Card games - mentally stimulating

3) Build your vocabulary - stimulates your mind and helps you grow

4) Dance your heart out - great exercise

5) Learn a new skill - expands your horizons, helps you mind

6) Teach - it would help you with so much

7) Music - listen or play music helps calm you , elevate your mood

8) Road Trip - taking the "Sunday drive" reminds you of old times

9) Meditate - keeps you centered and calm

10) Learn a new language - great to learn something new, will make you want to travel to a new country

11) Take up Tai Chi - keeps you centered, helps you with respect and self-discipline

Exercise To Do - Control Negative Thinking 

Control-Influence-Accept

When a lot of everyday tasks build up, the pressure can feel very overwhelming. Individuals can experience feelings of hopelessness, frustration, and even depression. The Control-Influence-Accept Model below was first developed by Neil and Sue Thompson in their book, “The Critically Reflective Practitioner” (Thompson & Thompson, 2018). This model was meant for usage in business and group settings, but can be applied individually when people are feeling depressed. 

A loss of control and indecision are two issues that individuals with depression can face, and having a model like this can help them determine: 1) their response to a situation and 2) what aspects they can control. 

Below is a breakdown of each of the three elements in this model: 

1. Control: 

■Your behavior surrounding the event 

■ When you complete certain tasks 

■ Your approach to situations and tasks 

2. Influence: 

■ How you respond to an event 

■ Your response to others 

■ Knowing who to turn to for help or advice 

3. Accept: 

■ Other people’s responses or decisions 

■ The ever-changing world around you 

Therefore, when approaching a problem or event, it is important to break down the aspects of each situation so you can better understand how to approach something overwhelming. Breaking it down can help you better understand your potential approach instead of engaging in unproductive worry. 

Name the Situation and/or Event (example losing a job?)

What can I Control?: 

What can I Influence?: 

What do I need to Accept?:

PositivePsychology.com Reflective Questions 

1. After completing this exercise, how do you feel about the situation? 

2. Is there anything in the “accept” field that you wish you could control or influence? If so, think about why you feel this way and write it below