Healing has NO Timeline

In the last 16 years I have become a pro at Grief and Healing. It still an ongoing daily process, shit an hourly process some days. Losing a parent it the most unbearable pain that you deal with everyday. Especially if as you became an adult they became your friends. Mine were! I would call them everyday to talk to my dad and get his advice, give him advice or he would just tell me the joke of the day. I would make it a point to go visit the at least one weekend day each week. I don't regret a moment of it. Below is some ways to help you cope:

Many types of Healing

a) Physical

b) Mental

c) Emotional

When I think of Healing and a time line , I instantly think of Healing\Grief. Everyone processes grief so differently.

 1) There is some who can't exist or go on afterwards. 2) A person who everyone says is doing a great job, but holds it all in. 3) Person who takes it day by day and falls apart when something reminds them of the loved one then they fall apart. None of them are right or wrong. However, in the end you need to go on and get back to life. It's hard but they would want to.

When going thru life's challenges one needs to try and self-heal. This way you would do this is by channeling your body's energy and use your thoughts and feeling to alter your energy frequency, this is like switching channels.

Steps

1) Awareness - Identify the cause of pain and how to avoid it.

2) Acceptance - Accept how things without resistance.

3) Feeling the pain - Embrace your emotions, don't move past them.

4) Grieving - Experiencing feelings of anger, bargaining depression and guilt.

5) Forgiveness - Letting go of resentment and anger.

6) Move Forward - This helps you, your relationships and mainly would be for your help.

Do not deny it is a defense mechanism It's okay to have Feelings.

Best Way to Heal Yourself

1) Healthy habits

2) Sufficient sleep

3) Balanced diet

4) Regular exercise

5) Stress management (yoga, meditation)

6) Address the root cause

7) Mindfulness and be self-aware - your thoughts and emotions triggers negative pattern

Do not delay treatment if you are seeing dramatic patters. DO NOT self diagnosis, delay or self-medicate.

Exercise To Do - Meditation

Meditation

Meditation is not only the foundational practice for spirituality but also good for physical and mental health.

Turns out that meditation produces a state of relaxation that’s the ideal state for health maintenance as well as the ideal state for healing. You may be aware that all disease both mental and physical is related to some form of stress. Well, the relaxed state that meditation produces reduces stress, thereby improving mental and physical health. So, while stress is a major contributor to ill health and disease, it’s also something you have control over.

This alone is an excellent reason for meditating, but it doesn’t stop there. Meditation is the foundational spiritual practice because it helps you transcend into higher states of consciousness.

You may be thinking, Okay, but I don’t want to meditate my life away. Well, you don’t have to. In fact, overdoing meditation can actually be counterproductive. So, how long should you meditate? There’s no definitive answer because it depends on your situation.

But for most people, 15-30 minutes is enough. And you can start with less. What’s most important is consistency. Whatever you decide to do, do it every day.

Start with 5 minutes. You can always add on if you feel the need. I would recommend building up to at least 15 minutes per day. You’ll know when to add more time. You can also add a second meditation per day. Perhaps one in the early morning and one before bed. But build up to at least one session of at least 15 minutes per day.

While there are many ways to meditate, I recommend using the following for at least a year. This is a proven method through years of practice and teaching.

1. Set up a special space for meditation free from clutter, distractions, and interruptions. It doesn’t have to be elaborate or even a separate room. Just a special space for meditation only.

2. Choose at least one daily time for meditation. Be consistent. It’s far more important that you meditate daily rather than how long you meditate for.

3. Assume a comfortable upright position. You can sit cross legged on the floor, if you do, a pillow under you will help. But most people prefer a comfortable chair. If it’s a big comfy chair, sit closer to the edge to help with spinal alignment and to avoid falling asleep. Keep your feet flat on the floor and knees bent at 90 degrees. Keep your spine straight but not to the point of tensing up, eyes gently closed and looking slightly upward about eyebrow level. Let your hands/forearms gently rest on your thighs/knees with palms up or down, whichever is more comfortable for you.

4. With mouth gently closed, inhale through your nose down to an area just below the navel, then exhale through your nose

5. Focus on your breath.

6. Let the breath slow down on its own. Don’t force your breath.

7. Settle into the relaxation that follows remaining still. If you need to adjust your posture or scratch your nose do so, but remain as still as possible.

8. Observe thoughts, emotions, and sensations without judgment or reaction of any kind. Don’t resist them, but don’t engage or react. 

9. If you get distracted, go back to focusing on breath.

10.  Don’t force or expect anything.

11.  Simply sit in the stillness and observe.

Review this meditation method until you know it well.

“Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.” – Brené Brown