YOUR happy now what?

I firmly feel that you make your own happiness and depending on the circumstance you can achieve it. Happiness is a state of mind. When I volunteered for a non profit that had an orphanage in Haiti, the children there were so happy even though there circumstances where so sad. However, they didn't know it was sad. 

Some people work so hard to be happy that once they get there in their minds they don't know what to do, how to act! If you feel like this it could be:

a) Sign of underlying anxieties

b) Fear of change

Instead of seeking happiness as an end point, try to embrace the moment, appreciate the present, and            actively seek out new experiences.

Things to consider when you feel this way:

1) Reflect on your beliefs - You haven't completed your life, seek out new stuff, relax and enjoy what you have achieved.

2) Practice gratitude - List of things you are happy for and remind yourself about your journey. You should do this at least once a year or when you are feeling sad.

3) Set new goals - Use positive energy to set up new goals and your desires. This will help you to grow and be fulfilled.

4) Embrace the moment - Fully experience each moment. Be Happy Be Proud

Take a break Enjoy it Walk outside! Be proud, you worked hard for this moment

Stages of Happiness

1) Laetus - Simple pleasure seeking, sensual gratification and uses our senses.

2) Felix - Gratification of our ego and sense of accomplishment.

3) Beatitudo - Human desire to connect, befriend and do good. When you experience this stage it is more joy than happiness. This can be deep and long lasting, we all have this common core.

4) Sublime Beatitudo This is through realm of the spiritual.

To also look at your happiness you should read up on what others think about it. Sadhguru says that in order to be happy you must do\follow these principles in life:

1) Kill the Lies - Just spend a minute to identify at least one thing in your life that is not necessary and kill that today. When I say “kill,” don’t start thinking about your boss, mother-in-law or neighbor. You must kill something about you that is unnecessary for your life. Something like “I will kill my anger” would be too general and this is not something that you can achieve by determination – this requires consciousness. 

2) Break the Status Quo - Look at life in terms of what can be changed and do something about it. Crying about things that you cannot change is a sure strategy to remain at status quo. At least once a month, every full moon day, consciously look at this and identify one small thing about yourself that you want to change. Like, “Every time before I eat, I will spend 10 seconds in gratitude for this food which is going to become a part of me.” Or, “Every time I use anything that is an essential element of my life, like the soil, the water, the air, and everything else around me, I will save 1% of it.” Or, “I will see to it that I only put on my plate what I can eat.” These small things will change your life and set you apart. 

3) Remember you are Mortal - A significant thing every human being has to do is structure their psychological and emotional framework around the most fundamental fact of their life – their mortality. Right now, it takes a lifetime for people to understand that they are mortal; they need a heart attack or the appearance of a malignant lump somewhere to remind them. Celebrate everything! Enjoy life!

4) Choose to live Intelligently - Within yourself, is it more pleasant to be loving, or to be angry, hateful and jealous? Which is a more intelligent way to exist? Loving, isn’t it? All I am saying is, please live intelligently. This is not for someone else’s sake. It is pleasant and beautiful for you. Creating a loving world is not a service that you do for someone else. It is an intelligent way to exist. You can create a loving world in every single activity that you do in your life.

5) Determine the Quality of your Life - In many ways, most people’s happiness, peace and love are mortgaged to the external situation. So, if the stock market goes up you are happy, if the stock market goes down you are unhappy. But the quality of life is not about what is around you. Our ability to live joyfully here does not depend on the size of the house we live in or the car that we drive. These things make your life comfortable and convenient but the essential quality of your life is how you are within yourself right now.

Living joyfully and peacefully is not new to you. You were like that as a child, isn’t it? So, I am not talking about taking you beyond, I am just talking about starting at the square one of your life.

6) There is Intelligence in Humility - The difference between a fool and an intelligent person is that an intelligent person knows how foolish he is; a fool does not. Noticing the stupidity of who you are is great intelligence. Anything in this existence – a tree, a blade of grass, a grain of sand, one single atom – do you understand any of these things fully? No. When this is your level of intelligence and perception, how should you walk in the world? Gently, with a little humility, respect and love for everything around you. If not love, then at least with awe, because you don’t understand a damn thing in this world. 

7) There is no Good and Bad - Your inner world – if you want to call it that – should only be a reflection of what is around you. This may be diametrically opposite to some moral theories that say the outer and the inner should not touch each other, otherwise you would immediately get corrupted by everything around you. That is not true. You get corrupted by what is around you only when you have opinions about everything. 

You look at one thing as good, something else as bad. You get attached to what you consider as good. You desperately try to avoid what you consider as bad, and of course that will rule you from inside. This is not the way to be. Seeing everything just the way it is – that is the way to be within. If you see something other than what is there, it means you are contaminating the world with your opinions and prejudices. 

Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life

Omar Khayyam ·