It's Not Selfish to put YOURSELF FIRST

We were taught when we are young that it's selfish to put yourself first. That you need to put other's before yourself. I DO NOT feel this way anymore. I DO feel that you have to make sure of several things before you decide to put yourself first:

1) If you are raising a child their needs and well being must come first. They would get fed first, clothed first and all their needs are taken care of first. I remember when folding laundry I couldn't believe that my mother's bras were in such bad shape. When I asked her why, she said "Right now I don't have the money to get you new school clothes and buy myself new bras". However, remember in order for them to do well you still need to take care of yourself. Just like the instructions we receive on a plane that when the oxygen mask comes down, put yours on first, then your child. If you don't do that you could end up losing your oxygen and end up passing out. Then both of you would be in trouble. In this instance you are better off putting yourself first.

2) To be a better partner, mother, sister, etc., you have to make sure you are taken care of you. If you are not functioning properly you won't be of any use to anyone else.

In order to love yourself you need to:

1) Set boundaries - by setting up respectful boundaries you are putting yourself first. This is good when dealing with people who do not have your best interests in mind.

2) Practice self-care - Treat yourself both emotionally and physically. Eat well, exercise, and get enough sleep.

3) Forgive yourself - Let go of any shame and guilt. Focus on growing and self-improving.

4) Journal - Write down things you are grateful for, stuff that brings you joy, your goals and write about your frustrations and temptations.

5) Ask for help - It's okay to reach out to someone, whether it's a trusted friend or a professional. Don't be heroic, in the end you hurt yourself.

6) Nourish your body - Be mindful with what you put into it. 

7) Surround yourself with Positivity - No negative energy it drains on YOU!

Be kind to YOU! Especially in hard times!

"Self-care is not a waste of time. Self-care is how you take your power back."  Lalah Delia