It's Okay to NOT be Okay

Podcast Script: It's Okay to NOT be Okay

Hosts: (Soft, empathetic tone) Hi everyone, and welcome back to The Unshakeable Compass.

Lately, we’ve been talking a lot about finding our "Queendom" and rewiring our internal narrators. But today, I want to talk about the days when the crown feels too heavy. The days when the narrator isn't just critical—it’s exhausted.

We need to have a serious conversation about a simple truth that a lot of us struggle to accept: It is okay to NOT be okay.

[Segment 1: The Myth of the "Bootstrap"]

Hosts: Lisa grew up in a generation where "falling apart" wasn't really on the menu. Whenever my life felt like it was crumbling, my parents would tell me, "Lisa, just pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get back on the horse."

Now, I don't know about you, but I didn't even ride horses! I wasn't quite sure what they meant, but the message was clear: Hide it. Fix it. Keep moving.

But here’s what I’ve learned over my 63 years, and especially during the challenges of the last six: We are not perfect. We are human. And sometimes, you have to give yourself permission to fall apart. The real "cheat code" isn't avoiding the fall—it’s how you deal with yourself while you’re down.

[Segment 2: Turning "Dumps" into "Direction"]

Hosts: If you feel like your life is in the dumps right now, I want you to know you have the power to change the script. You have a purpose, even when you can't feel it.

When I feel stuck, I make a list. I look at the problems, and I hunt for the solutions.

• Is it your health? Don't just worry about your blood pressure, research it, track it, and take control.

• Is it your savings? Even the smallest amount adds up. Start that program today.

• Is it a relationship? If you aren't happy, stop the "silent treatment" and talk.

And most importantly: Focus on abundance. We often look at what’s missing (scarcity), but if you shift to appreciating what you do have, everything changes. I want you to try writing in a journal every single day about positive things. It sounds small, but it's powerful.

[Segment 3: The Mental Exercise—Self-Compassion in Action]

Hosts: We want to give you a mental exercise rooted in self-compassion. It’s not about "forcing" positivity; it’s about acknowledging the truth.

1. Acknowledge the Feeling: Don't suppress it. Validate it. Once a month, find someone you trust and just... express it. It makes a world of difference when someone acknowledges that what you’re feeling is valid.

2. Practice Mindfulness: Spend one day a month "decompressing" from your own thoughts. Get a massage, go for a walk in the park, or get a pedicure with a friend.

3. Find Your Zone of Optimal Functioning (ZOF): Identify the specific conditions that allow you to thrive. Is it being in nature? Is it journaling in the sun? Is it going to the gym? (I try to hit the gym three times a week—it’s my reset button.)

4. Volunteer: If you’re feeling lost, find a way to give back. If you love animals, go to a shelter! Giving of yourself often helps you find yourself again.

[Segment 4: The Most Important Step—Reach Out]

Hosts: Here is your "homework" for this week. It’s an exercise in humility and strength: Reach out and ask for help.

Swallow your pride. There is absolutely no shame in needing a hand. Reach out to a loved one, a mentor, or someone you deeply trust. In the last six years, there have been many times I wasn't okay. When I stayed silent, things got worse. When I reached out, the world opened back up.

And if you see someone else struggling? Reach out to them. I have three individuals I check in with regularly. We are each other's "launch pads."

[Outro]

Hosts: Remember, life is hard, but you are allowed to be human. Look at your blessings, challenge those negative thoughts, and never forget that you have a unique purpose in this world.

You don't have to be perfect to be unshakeable. You just have to be honest.

Take care of yourselves, and I’ll talk to you next time on The Unshakeable Compass.